The first time I was able to express my feeling was on a message board for victims
of domestic violence. This is how I felt on March 10, 2002:
"[right now it] feels very lonely and the sadness I feel only helps continue the
isolation I been experiencing since I became involved with him. I guess I just needed to tell my story and not be judged for
being such a full to believe that we were going to be happy together with love and understanding. I know in my heart I will
get over the pain and trauma I experienced in these last 8 months: I will do it without him I will find my self again and
will be that happy man I once was.
Thanks for listening"
For the first time since the abuse started, I felt understood and realized that I had to stop
the silence in order to save my life. Today, this message board is my source for emotional support and gives me the strength
to continue the battle for justice. I survived the violence! Now I am able to see that Frankie's violent behavior is
criminal and unacceptable; instead of shame I feel proud to speak out the truth about the abuse, and so free
myself from his violence. Finally, I am able to deal with the trauma and to follow through on the criminal charges
that are going to make Frankie accountable for his crimes. Speaking about the abuse saved my life as found
emotional support from others who survived domestic violence and by received protection from the legal system.